You can Win -- { Chapter 6 } Subconscious Mind and Habit

{Chapter 6}

Subconscious Mind & Habit

Building a pleasing personality

     In today's generation, all are run to be a success in their life. the main step to be a success in life is, first we have learned to control ourselves. In today's world controlling ourselves is the most important step, every wants to know how to control themselves. Control ourselves means not externally but also internally like emotionally, mentally, physically. To be calm in every situation. Before control, we have to control the mind, first, we have to understand how the mind works, from where all the negative thoughts came, and what is that which makes an obstacle in the way of our success. To understand our mind we have to think like, our mind is a person and we are observing our mind. Then only we can understand and able to control our minds.

   In this chapter, we discuss all those steps and tips to control and reprogram our minds.

The GIGO Principle

Like computers Garbage In Garbage Out works; Same as it works in our lives too.

Negativity in; Negativity Out.

Positivity in; Positivity Out.

Good in; Good out.

    What we hear, see, think that is only we implement in our regular life or in our daily works; and slowly that turns became habits; and the habit became the character, and character decides our success rate. So our input equals to our output. Whatever we choose to put into our subconscious mind it will accept and our behavior will reflect that accordingly.

The movies we see, songs we listen to, images we like in social media, and the person we like all are directly affected to our subconscious mind.  The television has a considerable impact on influencing our morals, thinking, and culture, for good or bad. When we go to the movies we laugh and we cry. Is to because they put something in the scene or because the emotional input has an immediate emotional output? Change the input and the output changes.

How Do We Form Habits?

Anything we do repeatedly becomes a habit. We learn by doing. By behaving courageously, we learn courage. We often hear statements like, this person is just lucky, he touches dirt and it turns to gold or, he is unlucky, no matter what he touches, it turns to dirt. This is not true. If you analyze, the successful person is doing something right in each transaction and the failure is repeating the same mistake in each transaction. Remember, practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect. Practice makes permanent whatever you do repeatedly. Some people keep practicing their mistakes and they become perfect in them. So their mistakes become perfect and automatic. We have to remember one thing that Practice doesn't make perfect only perfect practice makes perfect.

How Do We Get Conditioned?

Most of our behavior comes as a result of conditioning-it is habitual. If we want to do anything well, it must become automatic. If we have to consciously think about doing the right thing we will never be able to do it well. That means we must make it a habit.

          Think of the mighty elephant who can lift in excess of a ton of weight with just its trunk. How do they condition the elephant to stay in one place with a weak rope and a stake? The elephant, when it is a baby, is tied to a strong chain and a strong tree. The baby is weak but the chain and tree are strong. The baby is not used to being tied. So it keeps tugging and pulling the chain, all in vain. A day comes when it realizes that all the tugging and pulling will not help. It stops and stands still. Now it is conditioned.

And when the baby elephant becomes the mighty giant elephant, he is tied with a weak rope and a small stake. The elephant could, with one tug, walk away free, but it goes nowhere, because it has been conditioned. 

       Human beings are constantly being conditioned, consciously or unconsciously, by exposure to: 

¨ the kind of books we read; 

¨ the kind of movies and TV programs we watch; 

¨ the kind of music we listen to; 

¨ the kind of company we keep. 

The Conscious and Subconscious Mind

   By the psychological expert's human beings using only 10 percent of the total capacity of the human brain and essential whatever we currently aware if and focused upon. Our conscious mind is like the tip of the iceberg. What we use in our daily life that is the only tip and the remaining 90 percent are which is a huge size of mind is our subconscious mind.

   Our conscious mind has the ability to think. It can accept or reject. But the subconscious only accepts, it makes no distinction regarding input. If we feed our mind with thoughts of fear, doubt, and hate, the auto-suggestions will activate and translate those things in reality. The subconscious mind dislikes a garden; it doesn't care what you plant. It is neutral; it has no preferences. But if you plant good seeds, you will have a good garden; otherwise you will have a wild growth of weeds.

 In order to succeed, we need to get the program in a positive way.

 How Do We Get Programmed

Think about how we learned to ride a bike. There are four stages: The first stage is called unconscious incompetence. This is a stage where we don't know that we don't know. The child doesn't know what it is to ride a bike (unconscious) nor can he ride a bike (incompetence). This is the stage of unconscious incompetence. 

The second stage is called consciously incompetent. This is the stage where the child grows and becomes conscious of what it is to ride a bike but cannot ride one himself, so he is consciously incompetent. 

But then he starts learning and now comes a third stage which is called consciously competent. Now he can ride a bike but has to think every time to do it. So with all the conscious thought and effort, the child is competent to ride a bike. 

The fourth stage is called unconsciously competent. It comes when the child has practiced consciously riding the bike so much that he doesn't have to think. It becomes an automatic process. He can talk to people and wave to others while riding. That means he has reached the stage of unconscious competence. At this level, we don't need the concentration and thinking because the behavior pattern has become automatic.

This is the level that we want all our positive habits to reach. Unfortunately, we have some negative habits too which are at the unconscious competence stage and are detrimental to our progress. 

Studies have shown that approximately 90% of all smokers became smokers by the age of 21. If a person has not become a smoker by the age of 21, then there is a very small chance that that person will ever become a smoker. This only proves that smoking is conditioned subconsciously and our conditioning starts at a young age.

Resistance to Change

When people recognize or become aware of their negative habits, why don't they change?

Nowadays the main reason is ego. They don't know that this ego is killing himself. They refuse to accept responsibility, or they may Lack the desire to change, Lack the discipline to change, Lack the belief that they can change.  All these factors prevent us from getting rid of our negative habits. There are some excuses are the most common explanations for not changing negative habits;

1. We have always done it that way.
2. We have never done it that way.
3. That is no my job.
4. I don't think it will make any difference.
5. I am too busy.

The change is maybe too small or too big,  we have stepped on that change then only we can turn our negative habit into a positive habit.  When we try to change our subconscious mind resist us but we don't have to care about that, then only that changing slowly becomes a habit and habit becomes our attitude. And that attitude directs us towards our dream/success.

Forming  Positive Habits

It is never too late to change. We hear all the time that you can't teach an old dog new tricks. We are humans not dogs. Neither are we performing tricks. We can unlearn self-destructive behavior and learn positive behavior. There is no big difference between a failure and a successful people. Example failures don't like discipline, hard work, or keeping commitments. Successful people also dislike discipline, hard work, and keeping commitments( an athlete doesn't like and want the discipline to get up and train every day but he does it regardless), but they do it anyway because they have formed the habit of doing things that failures don't like to do.

  It is easier to prevent a bad habit than to overcome them. Good habits come from overcoming temptation. Excellence is the result of repeated conscious effort until it becomes a habit. It needs enough practice to become a habit.

21-Day Formula To Form Positive Habits

Auto-Suggestion

     Autosuggestion is a statement made in the present tense, of the kind of person you want to be. Auto-suggestion is like writing a commercial to yourself about yourself, for yourself. Auto-suggestion is nothing but, it means suggest yourself. While we are making a decision or making a plan for our future we have to ask ourselves and take the opinion of ourselves.

   Autosuggestion is a way to program your subconscious mind. They can be positive or negative.

Some examples of negative auto-suggestion are:

¨ I'm tired. 

¨ I'm not an athlete. 

¨ I have a poor memory.

¨ I'm not good at math.

When we repeat to ourselves a negative auto-suggestion, our subconscious mind believes it and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and starts reflecting in our behavior. Auto-suggestions are a process of repetition. A person who repeats a statement long enough lets it sink into the subconscious mind. Positive statements are made because we think in pictures and not in words. If I say "Don't think of the blue elephant," what is the first picture that comes to your mind? The blue elephant. 

If I say "mother," what comes to your mind? A picture of your mother. 

Did you start spelling m-o-t-h-e-r? 

Of course not! 

When a negative word comes in the auto-suggestion, it forms a negative picture which we want to avoid.

Prepare the Subconscious mind

Auto-suggestion is a repetitive process through which we feed our subconscious with positive statements that translate into reality. Repetition alone is not enough unless it is accompanied by emotions and feelings. Auto-suggestions without visualization will not produce results.

The self-discipline to finish what one starts, is imperative. Auto-suggestion is a powerful character building tool. 
Translating Auto-Suggestion into Reality 

1. Make a list of your auto-suggestions in the present tense. 
2. Repeat auto-suggestions at least twice a day: first thing in the morning and at the end of the day. This is because in the morning, the mind is fresh and receptive and at night you deposit the positive picture into your subconscious overnight. 
3.  Repeat it consecutively for 21 days until it becomes a habit. 
4. Auto-suggestions alone will not work. They need visualization.

Visualization

Visualization is the process of creating and seeing a mental picture of the kind of thing you want to have or do, or the kind of person you want to be. Visualization goes hand in hand with auto-suggestion. Auto-suggestion without visualization is mechanical repetition and will be ineffective. In order to see results, auto-suggestion must be accompanied by feelings and emotions (visualization). 

CAUTION! Auto-suggestion may not be acceptable to the mind the first time you do it because it is an alien thought. For example, if for the past few decades I have believed that I have a poor memory and now all of a sudden, I tell myself, "I have a good memory!", my mind will throw it out, saying, "You liar! You have a bad memory!" Because that is what it has believed up to this point. It will take 21 days to dispel this notion. Why 21 days? Because it takes a minimum of 21 days of conscious, consecutive practice to formulate a habit. 

The big question is: Is 21 days of conscious effort a heavy price to pay to change a life for the better? It all sounds simple but it is not easy. I am not surprised to see how few people go through this routine.

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